I had made a very incensed post yesterday about the whole Oprah versus James Frey thing but took it down after a couple of rude emails because fighting over someone else's battle just is not worth my time. Although I have to say, I am a wee bit disappointed that I took it down because it was some of my best bitching to date ;).
(*edited*...I put the post back up because I was asked to AND because this is MY blog, thanks)
In all seriousness though, I think sometimes people struggle to forget that we are all different creatures with different opinions and that is okay....just don't get mad at me for mine. Heck, I don't even care if someone tries to make me see their side of the matter as long as they let me see my side. So yah, by the way, I am not talking about those of you who kindly disagreed and we talked about it...there were a couple of people who did not even get the courtesy of a return e-mail, heh. Speaking of return emails, is anyone else with TypePad just not receiving comments or does the world just hate me? LOL.
So here is the thing that I was thinking about, and it is sort of related to that topic but we'll talk in generalities. People lie. It is sad that I can make such a bold statement like that without blinking an eye....we'll just call it a "House-ism" but it is true. I'm not trying to be jaded or downplay the fact that lying is wrong, but a fact is a fact...some people are going to lie and some people are not. If someone has enough courage to admit to lying, apologize for it and basically sit through some very painful moments of reflection because they honestly feel bad about what they did, then who am I to judge them? How do I know what they were thinking when they did what they did? Don't get me wrong; if someone is just full of crap and has no remorse about being an incessant bullshitter, that is a different story. I guess what I am trying to say is that we all have faults and my goodness we are a judgmental society about other's faults, aren't we? Oh and do not, for one minute, think that I am not including myself in that statement because I am one of the biggest offenders of that which I detest.
One of the greatest "House-isms". that I am guilty of is thinking that people are just naive and wanting to shake them and snap them out of it when they don't see what is right in front of them....uh but maybe what is in front of them looks a helluva lot different than it does to me? Yah, I am really trying to learn that people aren't stupid just because they don't see things my way....funny that I am an advocate for everyone having their own opinion but still can judge that opinion in a flash....hey, I said I am working on it, so shush ;).
Anyway, I spent a good part of last night being pissy about this or that, and then again this morning but for some reason, I heard "Brick House" on the way to work and started to bounce with it, then everything felt okay again....funny how music can do that sometimes. I often think that I need to step outside of myself and look away for awhile when I get that worked up over various little nothings, especially at this time of the month. It is so easy to let the little things get you down or tick you off if enough of them build up at one time, but in the end....it just ends up causing more tension and drama and then everyone is unhappy and drinking whiskey sours just to stay sane....(that was a joke, just for clarification). I really wanted to eat last night; like I wanted to shove things like pop tarts and peanut butter sammiches in my gullet and just keep going...but I didn't. Luckily I realized that I was just being a big pissy baby and that going to bed would be the best thing that I could do because chances are that when I woke up today, a lot of that raging TOM bitchiness would be dissipated...and it is.
Kisses!
Can you please explain to me what a "House-ism" is? I haven't heard that before.
I feel like every post I read of yours I learn something!
Posted by: christie | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 10:45 AM
Oh I am so so sorry for the slang pop-culture reference, LOL. I forget that not everyone watches the TV show "House".
Dr. House is a cynical bastard whose first rule of doctoring is that "everybody lies" and his second rule is that basically everyone with an opinion that is not his...is an idiot ;)
Posted by: Hilly | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 10:48 AM
Oh, how I wish I didn't miss yesterday's post about O vs. Frey...I have the feeling that you feel much the same as I do on the whole subject. Did you see her show? It was just painful to watch for me - but enough about that now or I'll start getting slammed in your comments section! Have a great day, Hilly...
Posted by: Lora | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 11:58 AM
House if my favorite (non real life) character. House-ism's are quoted quite regularly at my house..alas at work House-ism's are met with blank looks. I didn't read Frey's book.. it never appealed to me.. and I actually thought it was a novel before all the hoopla... perhaps I was more correct than I knew :P I think anyone upset to discover the facts were skewed should ask who the fact checkers are at the publishing house that allowed an autobiography to go out without a disclaimer..
Posted by: Wendy | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 12:16 PM
Uh huh, Lora and Wendy...and I'm just sayin...if you are gonna defend someone without checking facts as well, don't get all mad at them a week later...coulda done your homework, sheesh ;)
Posted by: Hilly | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 12:50 PM
I liked yesterday's post! I nearly cried when I saw it disappeared! :(
Posted by: the walrus | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 01:25 PM
What??? You're learning how to kiss???
Posted by: I Can't Fit | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 01:33 PM
Here John....does this make you happy????
I had reserved it for someone else, but it applies to this as well...
Posted by: Hilly | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 01:58 PM
Nice nails, is that a Tiffany initial? I read your post last night and was surprised that it was missing today. Now I know why. Doesn't fan mail rule? Whatevah...good for you for not touching the pop tarts. They are evil.
TypePad has been a beyotch. I thought nobody loved me until I checked my blog. Sad. So you aren't the only TP user being targeted, we are all sharing the non comment alert BS.
Posted by: Foo Foo | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 03:57 PM
*gasp*
Why yes that IS a Tiffany necklace? How did you ever guess?
And good; we can be TP losers together ;)
Posted by: Hilly | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 04:37 PM
My whole life philosophy can be summed up in the statement, "Live and let live." I don't care what you do as long as you're not hurting anybody/anything else. And to be honest, I don't know why everybody's getting all worked up over this book. Here's a little piece of fact, people--just because it's in print doesn't make it true.
Posted by: Rachel | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 08:27 PM
I love the Tiff. Initial necklaces...hmmm, I could go by Hathleen....what do you think? Hand it over beyotch!
Posted by: Foo Foo | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 08:39 PM
Rachel - Amen, sistah!
Ha Hathleen...that means I can like...get a "K" and be Kilary...puurrrfect ;)
Posted by: Hilly | Friday, January 27, 2006 at 08:42 PM
I'm glad to see someone else doesn't absolutely love Oprah. I don't get the whole Oprah thing, people worship her.
Posted by: kathryn | Saturday, January 28, 2006 at 04:31 AM
Just realized that I posted my comment to the wrong blog entry - I mean, I posted it to the old entry about Oprah et al. So see below if you're interesrted.
I love your writing and your thoughts....thanks for the insight into such a wonderful human being.
Posted by: Spintaltap (from 50+ boards) | Saturday, January 28, 2006 at 08:15 AM