Oh my....I am like the antithesis of that famous quotation that goes something like, "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member". Never did like Groucho Marx much, but that quote seems to make me smile at this exact moment as I stare at my email in "what the FUCK?" blankness. Remember how a few days ago, I was talking about getting boxed-in and labeled due to the kind of sites that we have online? And I mentioned (maybe over at 2HT) that a lot of people come to my site, read the header and the sidebar menus, and assume that I am all about weight-loss and have no other brain cells in my puny little mind because obviously if I am into making my body healthier, then I cannot understand anything else that goes along with that, especially fat acceptance. Why the crap can't we have it both ways? Why can I not want fat acceptance to be prevalent and important but still think that it is unhealthy to be obese? It's like that thing my friend said about women wanting equal rights but still wanting men to open doors for them. Yes, of course because we all are not rigidly one thing or the other all of the time. So the reason for this rant and why I sit here slack-jawed is because someone actually refused me membership to their blog because "they are not about weight-loss". Granted, said person was very gracious about it but what the...who the...huh? I've got millions of opinions and thoughts about tons of things that have nothing to do with weight loss and actually have an extensive knowledge about the subject at hand today....so uh, yeah. I'm totally freaking flabbergasted and almost [yes, almost] speechless.
I totally lost my flow; I had intended to write about having to go spend Father's Day at The Trump National Golf Club this weekend with my Dad and his wife's family...and I was gonna bitch and moan about it but realized that I am lucky to have my Dad so I should shut up and just put up with the other people there. Plus the brunch is at ONE in the afternoon so I am sure our lazy asses can drive up in time...bwaha, jackets are required, poor Shawn. At least I can wear a cute sundressy thing and my crotchless Spanx ;).
So let's see.....one day I am popular, the next day I am not good enough and I clearly cannot have my cake and eat it too. Now who the hell said I was an OC Princess cause I clearly do not always get my way ;).
Did I Happen To Mention That I'm [Not] Impressed Kisses,
Me
Someone refused you membership to a blog? What do you mean? Since when do you need to be a member to read a blog? I'm adding that person to my "Why I Hate You" list. Who is it? heh.
Posted by: Karl | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 07:48 PM
I emailed it to you....I don't want a drama war bullshit thing here and/or to defame anyone's character....well, specifically that is ;)
Posted by: Hilly | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 07:55 PM
Yeah, I second Karl.
Who the hell needs membership to read a blog? And would DENY you because you're losing weight...??
Posted by: adena | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 08:02 PM
Heeeeeeeeee!
All I know is that you said "crotchless spanx," and I am about to piss myself laughing about it.
Posted by: jessica | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 08:21 PM
I will admit that when I first started coming here, I didn't know where to begin because this is a very personal blog, and as you know, well, mine isn't really like that. Me and the per-blog went the way of LJ along time ago.
But I have learned this fact in the past few years of blogging. It is easy to put people in boxes and define them as being these unified actors that are only concerned with one thing or topic, even when all evidence is pointing to the contrary. Snap judgments makes things seem easier, and in the end, most people don't want to deal with complexity.
Posted by: MC | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 09:41 PM
Is that the trump golf course thing that they showed one of the winners on the apprentice? If so ...wow that's already done? I guess time is money!!
I am dying to know too, why do you need to be a member for a blog. What the hell kind of blog is that? Weird.
Posted by: Sarah-LivingtoFeelGood | Thursday, June 15, 2006 at 09:55 PM
Spanx can be crotchless? Wow. Nice.
~Les
Posted by: Leslee | Friday, June 16, 2006 at 05:08 AM
I am SO with you on that connundrum. I don't want to BE FAT -- but at the same time, while I'm working out and eating healthily, I AM STILL FAT, and I don't want to be HATED or discriminated against or sterotyped or dismissed or abuse because I am fat. I don't see a conflict here. I'm not ANTI-FAT PEOPLE just because I personally want to lose weight.
I'm not losing weight to be accepted by society. I'd still be a dork on the fringes, thin or fat. I'm really trying to lose weight to correct a really annoying hormonal imbalance that causes me to be riddled with acne, depressed, and have my period EVERY SINGLE DAY OF MY LIFE.
I have ProActiv for the zits, Yasmin 28 for the period and since my skin looks good and I have a normal cycle, I'm no longer that depressed. I'm still losing the weight though, because it would be nice to be naturally zit-and-period free.
Posted by: Laura Bora | Monday, June 19, 2006 at 10:17 AM
On the other hand, sometimes even guys who hold the door for women appreciate the door being held for them. That, to me, is equal rights, not the lowest common denominator "safe" approach. Of course, it may just be me.
Posted by: Richard | Wednesday, June 21, 2006 at 12:52 PM
Richard - I can totally see where you are coming from but I am truly not a femi-nazi of any kind...I admit it; I still feel that it is polite for a man to hold a door open for me, just as I feel it is polite for me to hold the door open for someone who is elderly....I think it is just the way hi was raised :)
I think society wants things to be black and white, when clearly they are very gray.
Posted by: Hilly | Wednesday, June 21, 2006 at 02:16 PM